Reasons
Many will not admit that they stick their noses in other people’s business and not for a productive reason, especially when it comes to relationships ( Mind Your Business). They are several but we will focus on the three main ones. (1)The person maybe miserable & not have anyone in their life so no one must be happy (misery likes company). (2)They may not like the person’s job & may not think the person is successful enough. Along with not liking the persons’ looks. (3) The person reminds them of the past and they are not over it.
Looks
You should be attracted to the person whom you choose. However if you like them and choose to be with them it must have been that you were satisfied initially. So why allow someone else to have so much weight in the choice you made, after you made it. Some of the most attractive people have the darkest, selfish & most ugly hearts & attitudes ever. We don’t know until we see how they react in a situation. Looks don’t last forever & you don’t fall in love with someone for their looks you love them for who they truly are. If you did then you are shallow as (insert Badword of your choice).
More about my job than me
If you revoke a relationship because the person does not have a job your friends and family think is classy enough, that’s shallow. Do you possess a “classy” job ? Or are you both doing the typical asking for standards which you yourself haven’t reached. People forget things take time and everyone was not born fortunate. Seems it was more about looking for someone to show off than be proud of. Some may be saying in their mind I want someone to complement me or be my equal. Yes relating to who the person truly is on the inside. Not souly about where they are at the time in life.
Successful Or Blessed
It is interesting to hear people always say “Oh he or she ain’t successful” but what’s does it really mean to be successful? When you look it up you will find definitions saying having money, being wealth etc. Is it really owning the biggest house, living in a gated community or wealth area. Owning a Black X6, Phatom or White X6 that look like a panda. Having the biggest chains and flyest kix ( Versace, Radii or Maison Margiela ). A wealthy person or a relative could die and pass on that wealth tomorrow. Now the same person who wasn’t “successful / good enough” is now successful.
Difference between success & being blessed
I think people misunderstand the difference between success and being blessed. When you set a goal and work towards that goal and achieve it, then you have been successful. You set out to achieve something and you did it. Don’t just take my word for it you can find a similar definition when you look it up. All the glitter and gold are results of your success, its because you achieved that goal that you were now able to get the house, cars and jewellery. Someone could have those same things, but not be successful because they have not reached whatever goal the set out to accomplish.
You Never Know
On another note if whoever believes the person isn’t successfully enough has some of those clairvoyance powers please let me know. I would like to know what numbers to play for lotto tomorrow, what stocks and shares to buy so I could be rich. Since clearly that someone knows the future (lol). The point I am making is never judge someone based on where they are at presently. You never know what will happen and what goals they are working towards to change their present situation.
Beware
So many people always have an opinion on situations / relationships. It seems like one they have been in or know of so they cast judgement believing the same will happen. Taking advice from someone who is still hurt by the past isn’t wise to do. Beware of those who never have anything positive to say or try to look on the positive side of a situation. They are most likely a negative or pessimistic person. You are their friend so they will make the other person out to be the bad guy without being objective. You can’t listen to everyone because not everyone even your friends or family always has your best interest at heart. However some won’t want to go against what their family or friends think because they want to belong or fit in and not face any pressure from the situation.
How To Take Advice
If you want take advice first identify if that person is bitter, honest, objective or naive. Even after listening to the advise take time think and come to your own conclusion. Since you will have to live with the consequences. On a side note I think we should expect high or a balanced standards but not perfection because no one is but we should strive to get there.
